HOW TO BE A WOMAN

Some women are feminine by nature and do not need extra work but for women who have a very strong nature, they need God's help!

Some women behave like men. They are aggressive, domineering, loud, uncompromisingly assertive, egoistic, sassy, rude, strong willed, haughty, high minded and bossy -their temperaments made them behave this way and though some of these qualities are needed to achieve success, most are not good in marriage -these women desperately need to learn to be feminine or risk setting their marriages on fire!


I am by nature a strong woman and it helped me achieve certain success but it was not long I got married I discovered I can't make my husband happy by being bossy, stubborn and opinionated. It doesn't work.

A woman with this nature needs to walk close with God and study her Bible daily. I'm sorry, I do not know any other method that will work. She needs to humbly come before God and ask Him to break her down and remold her. As a result of being so goal oriented and high achieving, women like this are usually impatient, highly irritable, malicious and hostile. They keep grudges for a long period of time and find it difficult forgiving others. You seriously need God's intervention in your life especially when these characters are so ingrained.

No man can love a woman like this. He may try very hard but eventually he will crash. It takes two to make a marriage work. If it's only one person doing all the work while the other person is busy enjoying herself by being nasty, that marriage will end up in the divorce court.

A successful marriage thrives on love and those characters are anti-love. Study books on temperament. The best and most celebrated ones are Tim Lahaye's WHY YOU ACT THE WAY YOU DO and SPIRIT CONTROLLED TEMPERAMENT. They will help you understand yourself better and soften that strong nature.

A virtuous woman is quiet, soft, humble, 'meekful', submissive, very patient, loving, compassionate, kind, hospitable and generous -these are qualities that win any man's heart and keeps him glued to you forever.

I'm not asking you to pretend to be who you are not. It's okay to be bold, assertive, goal- driven, strong willed and audacious -they are your strengths. Enjoy them while working on your weaknesses or risk driving men away from you. May the Lord grant you understanding. 

God bless you.