Naturally, a woman wants to be the only one her husband loves, celebrates, adores, pampers, gives to and is sexually attracted to. She marries with the high hope that her husband will never be attracted to any other lady except her.
This expectation is good and should be held dearly. The challenge however lies in not understanding how a man is wired towards the opposite sex and not a few marriages have ended in shambles because of ignorance and undue jealousy in this area.
A man is a VISUAL person. He is easily moved by what he sees. So many women are surprised when they see their husband admire a beautiful lady and concludes he wants to date or sleep with her.
Granted, some men are lusty but not all men. Highly disciplined, morally sound, spiritual husbands also get attracted to beautiful ladies. Looking at her doesn't mean he's going to chase her, he may admire her hair, eyes, nose structure or lips then take away his eyes. He may even look more while thinking of how to make you as beautiful as she is. Men LOOKS!
The body of a woman is structured to turn a man on. A man can see a curvy woman and is sexually aroused to the annoyance of the wife! Some men lack self control but most men have unconsciously responded to the visual stimulation of a hot body. If women will learn to understand their husbands more, divorce will drastically reduce in our society.
When next you see your husband looking, watch what he looks without feeling threatened. Or lovingly ask him what he likes about the lady. If it is her make up, you will need to start applying make up, once he gets plenty of that look at home, his admiration for another woman out there will reduce by at least 50%. If he is aroused, give him sex. You must drain him of his sexual arousal. When a man is sexually excited, he is restless until he finds expression. Some women gets so angry, they deny their husbands sex for several days/weeks on end. That is stupid! Your action is point baseless! Has he committed adultery? Did he sleep with her? Why are you losing your head?
Seriously, most men who commit adultery wouldn't have if the wife understands him more and responds to his needs. Some women excuse their laziness at working on their marriages on incorrigibility. They say some men will commit adultery no matter what you do. The marriage had degenerated to the point the man cared less what his wife thinks. When a man gets to that point only God can save him thenceforth.
Your husband's temperament determines how he responds to attractive women. Extroverted men are restless around an attractive woman. He may talk loudly, brag around her, praise her silly and hold her hand or put his hand around her shoulder to the annoyance of his dear wife! Introverted men may look from afar and take away their eyes once their eyes meet. He may walk aimlessly about and become suddenly restless around his wife. The more confident ones may approach her and engage her in a "logical" discussion but his ever observant wife knows there is subtle chemistry going on between the two. Until you see tell tale signs like condoms in wallets and strange perfumes on your husbands boxers with red lipsticks all over his shirt, never jump to the conclusion your husband is committing adultery.
Learn to relax and stop insinuating. Allow your husband to be whom he is without policing him all over the places. Husbands should be disciplined around women. It is wrong to go praising another women silly when you have not praised your wife in decades. It is wrong to flirt with women. Learn to control yourself.
It is okay to admire a beautiful intelligent woman but it is wrong to chase her. Learn to be disciplined and upright. Your wife will respect you more for it. God bless you.
Cheers!
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