They think they are having fun but they are sitting on a time bomb. Here are the things married people do that shatter marriages to pieces:
1. FLIRTING: calling your
neighbour "sweetheart", chasing small girls all over the street,
wearing skimpy clothes while your husband's friends are around are things that
stir hot, murderous jealousy that eventually leads to the demise of a once upon
blissful marriage.
2. KEEPING SECRETS. No one
likes surprises, not your spouse either. It is not fun when your husband finds
out you have a child out of wedlock or you once dated and slept with his best
friend. It is a shocker if your wife opens your mail and sees messages from
your ex. These shatters trust beyond repair. Only God can help that marriage
thenceforth.
3. POOR HYGIENE: Oh, it's
easy to think "it doesn't matter, my spouse understands." Most women
don't wake up until they see their spouse deeply enmeshed in affair. There is
no excuse for body and mouth odour in marriage. Couples should learn to respect
their spouse and present a clean body to them. It works both ways. Men should
also step up in this area. A smelling mouth and unkempt armpit plus the one
down there is a huge turn off.
4. DEBT: Big issue. Good
debts go into the business, bad debts go into the stomach and other people's
pockets. Copying the Joneses and living far above your income is a sure recipe
for marital disaster.
5. GETTING FAT. If your
spouse loves it, fine, if he doesn't then correct it. Using childbirth,
contraceptives and hereditary as an excuse won't make your spouse see you as
sexy. They may feel guilty for complaining, swear to God they love you
"perfectly" the way you are but deep down they resent that fat and
easily get attracted to ladies/men who have the features you have buried
beneath the massive flesh.
6. PRAYERLESSNESS: Prayer
works. Nagging kills. Someone says "Tell your spouse his best and tell God
his worst." In other words, it takes God's intervention to break some
destructive habits in your spouse. Not that they don't want to change, they
just found themselves helpless.
7. PORNOGRAPHY is a number
one killer of sexual fulfillment in marriage. It leads to unrealistic
expectations, masturbation and premature ejaculation. Men addicted to these
pictures/movies often expect their wives to perform like the porn stars and
handle them like animals in bed. They also ejaculate early leaving the woman
unfulfilled and unsatisfied. Read my post on HOW TO SLEEP WITH A WOMAN. It
will help you a great deal.
8. COMPARISON: It's okay to
admire that cute guy at work, just keep that to yourself and don't expect your
spouse to walk, talk and think like him. Men who compare their wives to their
ex or mothers are digging their marital grave.
9. ROUTINE creates boredom.
Same food, same underwear, same sex position year in year out kills romance and
passion faster than anything else. Spice up your marriage and give it some
life.
10. AFFAIRS. This is a big
one. The moment another man sleeps with or you have sex with another woman,
your marriage qualifies for divorce. There is no excuse for extra marital
affairs. Avoid it like plague.
Work on your marriage, give it your
best shot, do all you can to make it work because YOU CAN MAKE IT
WORK.God has given you that power, use it and see your marriage
transform before your very eyes. You will succeed.
Peace...
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