HELP! I'M IN LOVE WITH A MARRIED MAN!

Alright, calm down. Take a deep breath. Breathe in, breathe out; again, breathe in, breathe out, fine, don't kill yourself over something that confuses you. Everyone falls in love okay? We just chose who we fall in love with -that's all.

Married men are very attractive. Apart from the fact that they are clean, good looking and well groomed, they also know how to treat a woman, especially a single lady like you and before long you find yourself fall head over heels in love with them. After all, no young man has ever treated you tenderly, affectionately, generously and graciously like this man, how could you have been able to resist him?

And to worsen it all, he is pitiably a victim of a bad marriage and you want to do everything in your power to make him happy, so you reciprocate his love and before you knew what was happening, the whole relationship exploded into a full blown affair! You didn't plan to sleep with him, it just happened and guilt has almost torn you to shreds. Now, let's get talking, you've taken things overboard right from the start.




A married man is UNAVAILABLE and it is wrong to date him. He is MARRIED and has a responsibility to give his undivided attention to his wife FIRST (after God) and stay faithful and committed to her for the rest of their married lives. He made a vow to her before God and man and he has responsibility to stick to it no matter what. Marriage is "for better, for worse." If he shys away from that and runs after you instead, it shows he has a serious character problem. He is not a faithful man, he lacks integrity and he can't keep a lasting relationship, what are you doing with that kind of man?

A man who turns his back on his wife when he sees all her weaknesses, hide you from his friends and relations, tells lies to his wife you do not exist and secretly sleeps with you is not a man any young lady like you should ever think of dating talkless of marrying.

Yes, his wife is a devil, why did he marry a her? What happened to descretion and discernment? We can't blame anybody for our wrong choice in marriage. If he loses passion for his marriage and commits adultery, he will definitely cheat on you after divorcing his wife with probably your sister or best friend. A leopard does not change its skin.

The issue is not the wife really, it is his own inability to deal with his weaknesses, grow up, be a responsible husband and faithful partner to his wife.

That tenderness is just a bait to catch you and you should thank his wife for that. Any married man who knows how to treat a woman learnt it from his wife. Had she not done that hard work on him, you wouldn't be attracted to him in the first place.

Please, clear your mind of that infatuation. Be objective, raise your standard higher and expect the best of God for you. You deserve a single young man who will be proud of you, accept you the way you are, show you undivided love and stay committed to you in marriage.

Please don't fall in love with a married man, it's not noble to steal another person's husband. You wouldn't be happy if someone else does that to you. Please release him, loose him and let him go.