ARE YOU SURE YOU ARE BOTH COMPATIBLE?

Compatibility simply means agreement. Amos 3:3 says "Can two walk together except they agree?"

One thing we have to understand about God is that He does not contradict Himself. God will NEVER give you a spouse you are not compatible with -never! That is one of the acid test of God's will. If you are both not compatible and you insist on going go the altar, you are making the greatest mistake of your life -truth is bitter.

Marriage is 90% communication. Every other thing you do is just 10%. If you both cannot COMMUNICATE effectively, deeply and intimately, your marriage is doomed to fail. It is as serious as that. 

How you communicate determines how strong your marriage will be. Remember, I didn't say talk, I said communicate because communication is both verbal and non-verbal. For instance, if you hate fruit salad and your spouse is fond of preparing it, and despite your complain they keep preparing and insist you eat it, and you know deep down that you will never love fruit salad because it gives you running stomach, soon, you will begin to associate your partner with pain. You will start getting angry with them, then you get bitter, then you start to hate, when you hate someone you avoid them, when you start avoiding your spouse you are heading towards divorce. The problem is, you have not communicated your hatred for fruit salad in a way they understand.

You may say well, that is satanic attack, how can someone divorce because of fruit salad? Honey, that is ignorance attack -pure ignorance!

Your compatibility should be total. That is, you should be physically, intellectually, mentally, socially, spiritually, emotionally and financially compatible. To save time, I will talk on INTELLECTUAL and MENTAL COMPATIBILITY because they have a lot to do with communication.I pray you don't fail in this area.

Your level of intelligence plays a major role in marriage. How you reason and perceive life determines what you experience, what you do and what you eventually become. The way your spouse reasons with you will determine whether you keep talking or hide and eventually shut down.

If your thinking is HIGH and your partner is LOW, there is a major disparity you need to do something about. If you love logical presentation of ideas, intellectually stimulating arguments, practical discussions that generate mind blowing solutions but your partner loves a yes or no answer because thinking too much tasks their brain, think twice before you marry them.This is serious and you should not joke with it unless you are prepared to settle for a less than average marriage.

Some people think because both partners are graduates, they are mentally compatible and therefore can marry; says who? A man can have his Masters and not be mentally compatible with a secondary school leaver. Schooling does not increase your intelligence, exercising your mind does.If you are mentally lazy, getting all the degrees in the world will not cure your mental shabbiness. However, if marrying a graduate boosts your self esteem, ensure you marry one - you have to be proud of your partner. Marry an intelligent one if you are intelligent.There are so many half baked graduates with certificates on the street.

I know a woman who claim to be a graduate but nothing suggests it. Her thinking is shallow, her character is crude, her dressing is backward and her command of the white man's language is nothing to write home about.I could not spend more than 5 minutes with her. Have you ever heard of husbands divorcing their wives and marrying their P.A? Because the woman at home gets complacent with mediocrity while the one at the office keeps improving.

Both partners should keep growing and increasing mentally and intellectually together. Marry a person who agrees with you in this area.  Anything short of this is a big mistake.