THE CONTROLLING WIFE...

Some women are naturally domineering and usually, they marry gentle, passive husbands.

Women like this need extra ordinary wisdom or they turn their super lamb husbands into super lions or tigers!

Under no circumstance should a woman shout at her husband but these women find it easy shouting at their husbands at the slightest provocation. They are very sharp and detest every form of passivity, laxity, procrastination and what have you which their husbands are experts at exhibiting.

Before marriage, opposites attract. You were attracted to your gentle husband because other men found you too domineering to cope with. He liked you because you always take charge and make things happen this however does not remove the fact that he is the head of the home who should be respected, obeyed and honoured, this is where lots of women completely break down.

How do you submit to a man who is passive? How do you submit to a man who does not do the right things at the right time? How would you submit to a man who would rather watch your child drown than jump into the river and save her? How would you submit to a man who is naive, arrogant, stubborn and "lazy"?

Wisdom. You need plenty of it to manage that man. You need to lovingly motivate him to do more and let him know you need him. 

When a man feels unneeded, he usually moves back and allow his wife take over.If you are always jumping up and down and doing the things he suppose to do because he is too "slow" and "sluggish" for you, you will have a troubled marriage.

God is the perfect match maker. He teamed you up with that man so you can learn from his strengths. What you call sluggishness, laxity and procrastination may be patience and endurance in disguise which you very much needed to handle some tough situations. Being too much in a hurry and always rushing to have your way will always land you in troubled water.

Be humble, be teachable, be patient. Stop doing like you know it all. Allow your husband have a say in your marriage. Learn to be submissive to his leadership. When a man is honoured as the man of the house, he wants to live up to his expectations.

Above all, be prayerful. Ask God to give you the grace and wisdom to be the type of wife you are suppose to be to your husband. Remember, "A wise woman builds her house..."