CONTROL YOURSELF MR MAN

I'm not a fan of sexual denial in marriage but a mature man should learn to control himself.

Your wife is not a sexual machine okay? She battles menstrual period, stress, hormonal imbalance due to contraceptives and you need to give her at least a month after delivery for her body to heal.

DANGEROUS GAMES MARRIED PEOPLE PLAY

They think they are having fun but they are sitting on a time bomb. Here are the things married people do that shatter marriages to pieces:

1. FLIRTING: calling your neighbour "sweetheart", chasing small girls all over the street, wearing skimpy clothes while your husband's friends are around are things that stir hot, murderous jealousy that eventually leads to the demise of a once upon blissful marriage.

2. KEEPING SECRETS. No one likes surprises, not your spouse either. It is not fun when your husband finds out you have a child out of wedlock or you once dated and slept with his best friend. It is a shocker if your wife opens your mail and sees messages from your ex. These shatters trust beyond repair. Only God can help that marriage thenceforth.

WHY DO YOU LOVE ME?

I asked him that question last week with tears threatening to burst out of me, "I don't know..." was his tender loving reply. It's been ten years of knowing him yet he still treats me with so much love, tenderness and great care.

UNDERSTANDING YOUR MAN

Men are not difficult, they are the simplest specie I have ever dealt with in my life. No one makes my life easier than a man, my man.

Here are the keys to ANY MAN's heart. If you can understand him, you can get ANYTHING you want from him.

1. ACCEPT HIM AS A MAN: He is a MAN, not a woman, so treat him as such.

2. ADMIRE HIM : Men loves to be admired. So many frustrated men I've met are not being admired by their wives. Admire his looks, career, talent, intelligence, success and sexual prowess.

3. PRAISE HIM:  Men loves to be praised. From signing a new  business deal, to doing well at work or even killing a rat at home, let him know he is your hero. Praise that man silly, lavish it on him but don't flatter. That is a turn off.

DON'T BE CHEAP !

I'M NOT CHEAP

    

The way you present yourself to a man is the way he will treat you. God won't make him treat you like a queen if you act cheap. Men love challenges, give him a challenge. No, don't be rude, but let him know you don't cheap. Never chase a man, NEVER! Never make him feel without him your life has ended. Set the right foundation for your marriage now, if he disrespects you in courtship, he will abuse you in marriage.

NO, DON'T FORCE HIM.

You can't force love on a man. If he loves you, he loves you. If he doesn't, he doesn't. Giving him sex and all the money in your bank account won't change his mind. Even if he marries you, he will collect your money and spend it on his lover. Leave him alone, let him chose whom he loves from the depth of his heart. Don't make yourself cheap.

IRRITATING HABITS IN MARRIAGE

Please let's get rid of these habits, they kill love and respect fast in intimate relationships. Here we go:

1. Farting in the presence of your spouse.

2. Leaving the toilet unflushed.

3. Going to bed with body and mouth odour.

4. Belching irritatingly in front of our spouse.

5. Reading or watching T.V while your mate is talking

6. Chatting with an unknown person far into the night.

Add yours...give us more suggestions on irritating things couples or partners do that turns their mates off.

FALSE ACCUSATIONS IN MARRIAGE

       

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Has your spouse ever accused you of doing things you never did? Don't worry, you are not alone. Millions of couples have gone through it and yours won't be the last.

The accusation can be as small as ignoring their call or as big as committing adultery.

False accusation is painful to say the least but here are the things you can do to save your self from false accusations in future.

1. Pick their calls immediately or call back as soon as you see missed calls.

2. To avoid being accused of adultery, stop doing the following:

i. Stop over complimenting/praising another member of the opposite sex unnecessarily.

ii. Never hug another person's spouse 360 degree -face to face, body to body.

iii. Do not wear skimpy clothes around them.

iv. Never compare them with your spouse.

HOW TO MAKE A WOMAN FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU.

I am a woman. I want to help you guys know what makes a lady ticks, get her say yes to you and put an end to years of frustration in getting a quality woman to marry.

The first place to start is know what turns ladies off and avoid them like plague. Know what turns them on and do them with pleasure. Now let's go:

1. NEVER APPROACH A LADY WITH PET NAMES: It's a huge turn off. For crying out loud, you don't know her, you just saw her from afar or on Facebook and you are saying "Hi honey." Honey? Honey for where? Who dash monkey banana?

2. DON'T BE DESPERATE: Desperate guys are a huge turn off! You look like someone who doesn't have a job and he's desperate to get a lady solve all of his life's problems. We take to our heels fast!

DON'T YOU GET IT? HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU!

Are you the one who makes the phone call, drag him to chat, spend on him, do everything he asks without thinking yet he won't commit to you? The answer is simple. HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU, period!

You cannot force love on a man. If he loves you, he loves you, if he doesn't, he doesn't. Giving him sex and all the money in your bank account won't change his mind.

 Men are not stupid my sister. They are down to earth logical and calculative. They think wide and make sound analysis. When you give him free sex and money he sees you as desperate and the last thing he ever wants to do is take you to the altar. Why? Something is definitely wrong with you. Why are you desperate? What are you lacking? Why are you chasing him? You've got tons and tons of hidden problems that oozes out to him and he's not ready to fix them. Infact, he's scared you are going to choke him with incessant demands for for love and attention which he doesn't have so he takes to his heels.

BEFORE YOU MARRY YOUR SAMSON

For every woman desiring to marry a great, highly successful, super intelligent, fearless, courageous, handsome and anointed man like Samson, prepare for a Delilah!

I don't mean to scare you, Samsons are hard to keep. You need to work extra hard on your self to keep being the only focus in their lives. Samsons are rare, so are their lifestyles and habits -they come in a high package: high brain, high taste, high power and high sexual drive. Samson's libido was super high. It was not his fault, God blessed him with unusual adrenaline; his testosterone was way too high for the common man and so was the blood rushing to all the appropriate places, the result? An insatiable hunger for sex.

SWEET LADY...

My sweet ladies, very special ladies, it's high time we brushed up our self-esteem and surrender our hearts to that man who truly deserves it.

It's time to forget those time wasters and pray for your own very bone and flesh. That man that will treat you like the greatest miracle of his life and carry you like an egg. You may say , "Seun doesn't know what she's talking about, I am very difficult to live it." That is exactly why he loves to marry you because your lifestyle simply tantalize him rather than scare him or you say, "but I have a past." Everyone has a past honey, no one is a saint. It's because of that past he's gonna marry you, he aint looking for a saint! "Oh, what about my family background?" It means absolute nothing to him whether you are rich or poor he loves you for who you are.

SHE'S FAKE!

Okay, okay. We should avoid fornication, never touch a lady till you marry her. Those stuff are good. Very good. Okay, what about those guys who didn't touch or "do" only to get married and discovered the lady has only one breast or something worse? A brother got married recently expecting something great on the wedding night, what did he see? Flat and sagging breasts and the buttock? Nothing. It was padded and probably lifted up with waist trainers. That is a huge shocker!

You don’t need to strip her naked in courtship to know what you are "buying." Simply give your courtship time and ask every question you can before you marry a fake woman.

HELP! I'M IN LOVE WITH A MARRIED MAN!

Alright, calm down. Take a deep breath. Breathe in, breathe out; again, breathe in, breathe out, fine, don't kill yourself over something that confuses you. Everyone falls in love okay? We just chose who we fall in love with -that's all.

Married men are very attractive. Apart from the fact that they are clean, good looking and well groomed, they also know how to treat a woman, especially a single lady like you and before long you find yourself fall head over heels in love with them. After all, no young man has ever treated you tenderly, affectionately, generously and graciously like this man, how could you have been able to resist him?

And to worsen it all, he is pitiably a victim of a bad marriage and you want to do everything in your power to make him happy, so you reciprocate his love and before you knew what was happening, the whole relationship exploded into a full blown affair! You didn't plan to sleep with him, it just happened and guilt has almost torn you to shreds. Now, let's get talking, you've taken things overboard right from the start.

YOU HURT ME

Forgive hurting people when they hurt you. People who hurt, hurt others badly because they are hurting inside and are not even aware they are hurting. Be the mature one. Wave their words aside and concentrate on loving. Hurting people hurt others without knowing. Keep loving them, that is the best way to treat people.

I love you!

NO, YOU CAN'T TAKE IT!

You, can't take abuse in relationship sister. You are too precious for that. Please don't be so desperate to have a man, any man that you take every form of abuse! Reject it, better still avoid it all together. I can't stand a man call me names because he wants to marry me or give me money, nay, NEVER!

HE IS NOT HAPPY WHEN...

1. You are rude to him.

2. Shout at him in public.

3. Report him to his parents, your parents, siblings, friends and enemies.

4. Pay the bills. He wants to take care of you and not the other way round.

5. Challenge his authority; make him feel less than a man.

6. Deny him his sexual rights.

7. His secretary understands him a million times better than you do.

8. Your children are more important to you than he does.

9. You hate his mother

10. You compare him with other men you secretly admire.

Is your husband happy?

DOWN TO EARTH

Successful relationships are not magic. Any marriage that will last a life time must have God at the centre and face REALITY -hard reality.

No matter whose voice you heard brother, if that lady insults you, disgrace you and would not respect you in front of your friends and family, your marriage will end in the dustbin. Bottom line, NEVER marry a lady who DISRESPECTS you.

What some people call love is just overwhelming emotion, infatuation or pure lust and they rush to the alter because they do not want to commit fornication or have a child out of wedlock only to realise just few months after the wedding they have made the greatest mistake of their lives.

VIRGINITY

Virginity is not an old school mentality, it is an eternal mentality.It is a very rare treasure that singles should protect with every ounce of their blood. It holds numerous benefits and if you are fortunate to still have yours, CONGRATULATIONS!

1. It builds your self-esteem.Illicit sex destroys self-esteem faster than anything else.

2. You succeed easily.You are not distracted with the thoughts of the guys who have used you and dumped you.

3. You preserve your glory.People who give their virginity to the wrong men have to claim it back with  tears.

4. You are bold, audacious,attractive and desirable.

IT HURTS TO LET GO....

It hurts like hot pepper when the one you love says "goodbye" to you with warning, they just left, just like that, it's not easy to let them go...

No matter what, God loves you and he has someone BETTER for you. It's hard to believe that right now as it looks like your last hope has just been taken away from you but believe me, God has someone better for you.

Shed the tears, cry on your pillow, talk it out to someone who cares, you need time to mend your broken past but believe me, the pain will pass and soon, God will put a smile on your face.

GIVE HIM SUPER SEX

Most men don't enjoy sex with their wives. On a scale of 10, hardly would we find 3 men who can boldly declare his sex life excellent. So, they keep suffering in silence, fantasize about their ex-girlfriends, secretary in the office or plain run into the arms of the ever willing mistress.

Now, is the time to claim your husband back and have him glued to you like super glue for the rest of your married life.

1. Desire to please him: Make up your mind to act right. Even if he treats you badly, for God's sake, honour him, never repay evil for evil.

2. Admire his body: Men love to be admired by their wives. Take a long, tender look at his sharp eyes, well carved nose, sexy moustache (if he has any) sensous lips, broad chest, bulging biceps and if he is slender, appreciate that tall, slim frame. Appreciate his skin! Whether tanned, chocolate, fair, dark or black, he's your husband, he's got no other wife, don't allow anybody do that job for you.

3. Tell him you find him hot and wanna sleep with him any day, any time: Married couples should use sexy words freely between each other. Send sexy text messages, chat, call, set romance in pace. Tell him you love him and you think about him all the time.

4. Wear sexy under-wears for him: Deliberately do things that turn him on. Make marriage fun. When no one is watching, give him a quick kiss, slap his behind playfully, tenderly play with his beard, etc.

5. Go to bed spic and span: NEVER sleep beside your husband without brushing your teeth or bathing, it's a huge turn off.

6. Try things you've never tried before: Learn to kiss. If you don't know how, google it. Play with his body. Climb on top of him and work on every part of him.

7. Take the lead: If you are tired of cowgirl, go spooning, doggy, sitting or standing, lead!

8. Match his speed: Follow the rhythm. Make love to him. Do it to him.

9. Get your body in shape: You need to work on your body. Drop the fat. Work on the stretch marks. Exercise, eat vegetables, drink plenty of water. A successful sex life needs lots of energy.

10. Vagina birth after 3 children can leave you over stretched. Go back to the virgin he married. Do kegel excerise. It will flatten your tummy and restore strength to the appropriate places.

11. Do not keep your mouth shut during love making: If he wants you to moan, do it. Speak in tongues, call Jesus' name (don't swear sha) or give him the names his father and mother forgot to give him.

12. Pray for grace to satisfy your husband: It's not easy considering work, stress, children and running the family. The Lord is your strength.

13. Your husband can remain faithful to you for the rest of your married life. It's completely upto you. 

You have that power over him. Use it!

HOW TO SLEEP WITH A WOMAN

Yeah, you read that right, or better still, how to get a woman's back to the ground or flatly, how to have sex with a woman. How to make a woman go hot for you and willingly strip her self naked, that's what I'm talking about.

Now, let's go straight to the point.

SECRETS MEN KEEP FROM THEIR WIVES

Men have secrets and they keep them very tightly to their chest. A woman almost ran mad during her husband's burial when another woman showed up with his son she never knew from Adam. They had a blissful marriage and she never suspected her husband was having an affair.

I'm not just talking about affairs. I'm also talking giving out money without your consent or extending secret hands to his family members. He can also have secret bank accounts, businesses and projects.

No marriage can survive on secrets. However, a wife's attitude determines how much of himself her husband will reveal to her. If you want your husband to open all his heart to you ,you must be mature, faithful, loyal, dependable and trustworthy. There are some women who have no secrets. Their friends know everything about their husbands including how many times they have sex per week. Learn to keep your husband's secrets secret.

FAT ME

Actually, not all men want their wives to be slim but all men want their wives to be as attractive as they were (if not more) when they met them. Though I was slim when hubby met me, he wanted me to add a little weight but not blow off so he keeps watching my weight like a hawk (lols, funny guy!)

I must confess I blew right off the road after my first baby and hubby couldn't believe his eyes. I gave giving birth as an excuse and ate all the fatty food within my disposal: turkey, chicken, butter, fried food and consumed milk as if my life depended on it.

 After all, baby needs all the nourishment he can get from my milk and if I do not eat well, how will baby get the right nourishment from mummy?

Needless to say, I lost the shape. Everywhere was big, I wore big clothes and to walk became a real problem. I grew tired easily and my heartbeat was almost running to a full stop.

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I am passionate about your relationship. I want you to pick the guy/lady that suits you most, enjoy a fantastic courtship and go on to have a blissful marriage.

When your spouse loves you like crazy, my day is made. That is my joy, to see you enjoy heaven on earth in your marriage.

Please sit back, relax, learn and comment as we all go on to explore secrets of successful relationships. I'm so happy to serve you, let's make this world a better place together.

 Lots of love....